Polyamory, Fluid Love, and Why We Need to Talk About This in Queer Spaces đ
Polyamory exists in our community. Loudly, quietly, awkwardly, and beautifully. Yet we donât talk about it enough.
I sat down with my friend Lisette, a queer and fluid-identifying woman who is currently dating two people at the same time: a woman she has been seeing for a while and a man she recently connected with.
Hereâs why her story matters.
First, everyone involved knows. This isnât sneaking around. Itâs honest, intentional, and rooted in care. That honesty is the heart of ethical non-monogamy.
Second, itâs work. People often romanticize polyamory as simply more attention or more intimacy, but Lisette kept it real. Itâs scheduling, emotional check-ins, managing jealousy, and learning how to give time and energy to more than one person without losing yourself. Itâs not about being greedy; itâs about communication.
Third, its growth. Lisette is learning what love looks like when you remove the idea of ownership. Itâs not âyouâre mine, so you canât see anyone else.â Itâs âI love you, and I want you to be happy, even if that happiness includes others.â That mindset is beautiful and brave, even when itâs hard.
And finally, itâs valid. Queer folks, especially women and femmes, are still told that âreal loveâ means total exclusivity or that it doesnât count. But thatâs not everyoneâs truth. Some people fall for more than one person. Some feel emotionally safe with one partner and sexually free with another. Some are simply exploring.
Polyamory isnât a phase. Itâs a real and meaningful way of loving that works for some people in certain seasons of their lives. Those stories deserve to be seen without shame.
Lisetteâs experience is not a theory or a think piece. Itâs a real queer woman navigating connection with honesty, care, and vulnerability. Sharing stories like hers gives our community permission to define love in ways that truly fit who we are.
If youâve ever felt âwrongâ for wanting more than one connection at a time, youâre not wrong, broken, or too much. Youâre simply not monogamous. And thatâs okay.
Letâs keep creating space for love in all its forms, without judgment.
We are excited to bring you our new Queer series on the Vybez Entertainment channel titled, Queer Vybez. This series was created as a safe space to learn, share and discuss various topics within the Queer culture to gain more connection and understanding. Lisette, our first guest, visits us from Atlanta to discuss how she identifies in the Queer community and her experience so far in newly exploring open relationships. Enjoy!
Are you queer and into Polyamory? If so, whatâs been your experience? Share in the comments.
If you read this via email, feel free to reply to this email about your experience. Would love to hear from you.

Thank you so much for sharing this powerful and beautiful story. I love to learn how queer folks experience love and hearing more about poly is definitely eye opening. Keep sharing stories! Love to see them